Most others, well, aren’t.To assist with these life changes and help herself feel better mentally, Holliday has also begun eating differently. Apparently, he sees her as a public health threat. “In the beginning I used to say, ‘I’m healthy, my cholesterol’s fine, I don’t have high blood pressure, I don’t have diabetes,” she says. I know that you enjoy that part of our relationship, because I enjoy it, and he needs it, and I feel like we balance each other out.”It makes me wonder: If Tess Holliday is so busy taking care of so many people, who takes care of her? She is particularly troubled by the lack of plus-size models her size or similar, and the lack of people of color in these spaces. People don't come over to see me or the kids or don't ask me to do stuff because they assume A. I'm too busy, B. I won't want to, or C. I have better things to do.”Holliday says she’s also sought personal and professional guidance to help treat her post-partum depression.“I've started taking medication for my depression,” she says. She elaborates on that dynamic in person: “Sometimes, Nick will tell me, ‘I can take care of myself.’ But then, I bring him his medicine every morning. The plan is for us to sit down for an interview before spending some time together wandering around Adventureland. And to have gone through everything I have in life. She believes she’s been given a lot of opportunities that her counterparts of color haven’t.

I feel very L.A. saying that, like, I take medication and I have a life coach, but I literally felt like I was going crazy at the beginning of this year.” To Holliday, this is the conversation about health that’s actually worth having. “The amount of people [who] get thrust into the limelight and they're plus size? After that Instagram comment, I sent that same friend a message about how I felt like I was spiraling back into old harmful and inaccurate thought patterns about my body and myself. As Britain battles an ever-worsening obesity crisis, this is the new cover of Cosmo. She says she’s also recently been dealing with some unprocessed trauma from her childhood: “Writing the book stirred a lot up for myself that I thought I was over, but I wasn't.”Holliday says she relies on her friends for support with her own mental health, although she’s still learning how to do that. “Part of my trauma is negative thought patterns,” she says, “and I'll start to spiral and I'll go down a rabbit hole and I need someone to [just put a hand on my shoulder and say,] ‘Take a breath.’ Nick was doing it actually on the way here. “There's a famous quote, I don't know who said it but I use it all the time: ‘Never waste your time explaining yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding you.’”Holliday is mostly in good spirits at Disneyland.

The reality is I don't owe you shit and I don't have to prove that I'm healthy or not, because it is nobody's business.”The enraging and obvious fact about concern trolls is that they are not actually concerned about your health at all.

I ask her.“I wasn't doing any self-care,” she says, which was particularly difficult after the birth of her second child Bowie, in June 2016, when she began to experience serious post-partum depression. People are eager to point fingers at others, while displaying spectacular ignorance about obesity.Subscribe by email to follow the accumulating evidence and observations that shape our view of health, obesity, and policy.©2009-2013 ConscienHealth. Tess Holliday posted a picture of herself on her Instagram page and captioned it #effyourbeautystandards Credit: Instagram. And she relies a lot on her husband. But Holliday’s philosophy is to refuse to play along at all. If you are a fat woman with the unmitigated gall to present yourself as happy or beautiful, concern trolls will tell you that you are not healthy and should focus on losing weight. “I’m never like this. It’s complicated.“I feel guilty,” she says. Makeup: Kristin Hilton at The Wall Group. After my diagnosis, I tell her, I began following plus-size fashion bloggers on social—I wanted to know how to dress my body, and these women seemed to have it figured out. I posted the photo to my Instagram feed, and one of the first comments referred to both of our midsections as “round” and questioned whether or not we were healthy.In the weeks and months leading up to that Instagram comment, I had been in the midst of my own personal body acceptance revolution. Manicure by Emi Kudo at Opus Beauty. She has no such complaints at Disneyland.Her life story is compelling enough to write a book about, and she did.